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5 Reasons You Haven’t Locked a Guy Down in College

Pensive Thinker

So you’re in college, single, and tired of it. Wondering why you haven’t locked a guy down . Whether you are looking for a Mr. right now or a forever man to have by your side, you are probably doing one of these things wrong.

Now, I’m not an expert at dating, but I am a college student that sees girls making way too many of these mistakes way too often. Heck, in high school I made many of these mistakes over and over again. In fact, I don’t think you stop making these mistakes until you get a wakeup call, from a guy, a friend, or if you’re reading this then me!

Finding a guy that doesn’t just want to screw around can be hard. Especially in college. Finding a weekend fling on the other hand is not so hard. So, how can you make that weekend fling turn into something more? Most likely, by not having one, at least if you ever want it to be more than that.

Not to say that you can’t end up having a relationship with someone that started as a one-night stand. You can, but it’s rare. Like having the cute guy at the coffee stand give you a free coffee rare. It can happen, but it probably won’t.

This doesn’t mean you aren’t allowed to hook up in college. You are. Just make sure that you and the lucky participant are on the same page when you do. In doing so, be aware that guys are smooth and will say anything to make you happy if they know they’ll be getting happy in return. I think you know what I mean. So, the best time to ask, “where is this going?” Is not when you guys are about to get going.



You are looking in the wrong places

Consider where you are looking for your future bae. Is it in the library or at a frat party on Friday night? This might be an extreme example, but it’s true. Don’t expect to find someone that’s ready for a commitment that is drinking every Thursday through Sunday and is more than willing to have a different girl each night.

This is a very extreme example, not every boy in a fraternity is like this, but a fraternity is a great way for boys to have access to unlimited alcohol and if they are lucky, girls. Point is, the places you are finding or meeting guys in your life could be why you aren’t finding a keeper. If you’re continuously looking in the same places, try switching your atmosphere up.

You are too available

If you are anything like me, you are trying too hard to make something work, that just won’t. In high school I was notorious for showing too much interest in guys, who just weren’t that interested in me. Sure, they were interested in kissing me, but not actually being with me or spending time with me.

A sure way to tell if you are in this same boat is if you are always the one trying to make plans. Never put more effort into someone than they are willing to put into you. This goes for guys and friends. If a guy is really into you he will make an effort to see you. If he’s not asking about the next time you will be hanging out, you shouldn’t either. This can be frustrating, especially if you’re really into someone, but their lack of effort isn’t going to change.

You are sending the wrong messages

Guys aren’t always the only ones in the wrong ladies! The messages you are sending may be having an effect on your relationship status. This can be anything from portraying yourself as being okay with just hooking up, or being too clingy too fast.

There’s a good middle ground when you start dating someone, or are trying to date someone. While you don’t want to come on too strong, you also want to make your intentions of the relationship clear. Don’t demand to be exclusive after your first date. Demand exclusivity before you get too physical. If a guy knows he can have you without committing than chances are he won’t.

You are giving the wrong guys too much of your time

If you’ve been seeing a guy for a while and he hasn’t committed to you, stop wasting your time! I know it’s hard to say goodbye, especially when you like a guy and nothing’s “wrong” with the relationship. However, if you’ve been seeing someone for a while and they haven’t made it official than something is wrong. Boy, bye!

There are many guys in college who do want relationships, and many who don’t. So, steer clear of the guys who don’t.



You are ignoring all the warning signs

Face it girl, he just might not be into you. Or, maybe he’s into you, but not enough to give up seeing whoever he wants, whenever he wants. Most of the time guys will be pretty straight up with you. But girls tend to have a blind eye to what they don’t want to hear. If a guy tells you he’s not ready for a relationship, don’t think you can change that. If a guy has been a jerk to girls in the past, don’t think you’ll you be the exception.

If a guy tells you or gives you any reason to believe he’s not ready for a relationship, take it at face value. Don’t try to justify his actions, no it does not mean anything. Stop over analyzing. Say it with me, “Boy, bye!” Typically, guys are simple creatures, and if they like you, they won’t go around playing games. They will make you a part of their world, and they will enjoy having you around.

Remember, you are worthy of someone who puts as much effort into you as you put into them. A relationship should always be mutual, and if it’s not then it’s not worth it. You’re gorgeous and deserving of the love of another. However, if you’re ready for a relationship and it’s not happening, then hopefully this list can help you realize something you might be doing wrong! Last not but not least, if there was a boy that came front and center to your mind reading this post, you’ll either be grateful when you go to hug him soon. Or, you should be jumping off the fence and kicking your guy to the curb. Yeah, the one you’ve been wasting all your time on. Say it loudly, “Boy, BYE!” 





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    I am loving your site and your unique voice.

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